Most likely you have heard, “there’s no book on how to raise a child”, perhaps because “it takes a village” – you may have heard that one too.
Raising a child is not easy by any stretch but abiding by good treatment and tenets of child-focus can yield a happier trail of nurturing.
How many of you, when you had your first child you felt apprehensive, wanted someone to come in and help…show you things? If you had my mind, severely concerned that we, two young people (my husband and I) know nothing about taking care of a human who has their life in our inexperienced hands. I felt that this came upon us so sudden, even with 9 months, we needed an extensive class of some sort so this child can stay alive without struggles.
My first scare was that this baby in my belly has to come out sometime and what ESCRUTIATION that must be – my thought was that if only I could be asleep and when I wake up there is a baby – though unrealistic, that’s joy too.
Give Love
For your children, give them your focus and really listen to them. Online devices have inundated our lives, but we have to be mindful that we SEE and HEAR children when they address us. Let them feel you caring to engage with them. We tend to ‘halfway’ be attentive to each other as a whole, but with children, they need your focus. Their discussion topics may span the myriads beyond our sphere of intelligence, nevertheless… engage, engage, engage! Give Love!
Give Respect
Children are subordinates, junior to parents, but that is not a recipe for lashing out rabid punishment to correct behavior. Give them respect when inducing corrective actions, and avoid being abusive.
In addition, when it comes to grievances between you, as parents – children don’t need to be in the midst of those adult-sized problems because it takes away their freedom to just be kids. If not, they become wrapped in your issues, which can put them on a mentally compromising path.
These harsh troubles can change who a child can become, creating behavior problems, depression and stress disorders. (National Institute of Health)
Give Time
You may not realize it but family dynamics, environment and finding time to spend with your child can make a positive impact and play a role in making them feel your love.
Spending quality time with your children is crucial to their development, where they adopt good behaviors and it encourages communication. Yes life happens and we find ourselves pulled in many directions, but we have to carve out ‘child time’. It’s what’s up. (National Association for the Education of Young Children)
Happiness in children is a staunch reality. It not only takes a village, it takes you.